I used to think of "coffeeshop aunties" gossiping and spreading false rumours when I see this word. "Rumor" has become a neglected word and issue of the present society.
Why? Because of guilt. When people, criticize others of spreading rumours and gossiping, they normally feel guilty themselves, as they themselves have in their lives, gossip before.
Rumours are like temptations. They tempt you to change your opinion of somone, when it is actually not true.
I recently watched a TV Drama called Table of Glory, "乒乓圆". The main character, Ah Wu, found the secret to playing table tennis. Out of jealousy, his best friend's boyfriend, who is also a tabel tennis player, spread untrue rumours about him eg. about him using his best friend to steal techniques from her boyfriend.
This made his best friend change her opinions about him. She said something to this friend whom she has known for 20 years. "I can't believe you would do this. You have changed."
He is actually a very modest person.
Recently, in my class, a classmate started saying that another classmate, Zhan Rong, a prosperous-looking guy has swine-flu! Suddenly, everyone started seeing him in a different light. Everyone started looking out for his mistakes, like sneezing in class and day by day, they grow more and more afraid of him.
This shows human tendency to believe in rumours instead of using logical thinking to analyse matters, or even a person.
When they hear rumours and gossips about a person, we tend to change original views. For example, we used to see this person as a kind and jovial person but after someone said that he is a sly person, we will think, "Is he kind to me to gain some personal benefits?"
Actually, every problem has a solution. It is self-judgement. We can decide for ourselves the type of person someone is. We also have to think, "Is he spreading rumours about that guy because of some past grudges or misunderstanding?"
Rumours, self-judgement.
Why? Because of guilt. When people, criticize others of spreading rumours and gossiping, they normally feel guilty themselves, as they themselves have in their lives, gossip before.
Rumours are like temptations. They tempt you to change your opinion of somone, when it is actually not true.
I recently watched a TV Drama called Table of Glory, "乒乓圆". The main character, Ah Wu, found the secret to playing table tennis. Out of jealousy, his best friend's boyfriend, who is also a tabel tennis player, spread untrue rumours about him eg. about him using his best friend to steal techniques from her boyfriend.
This made his best friend change her opinions about him. She said something to this friend whom she has known for 20 years. "I can't believe you would do this. You have changed."
He is actually a very modest person.
Recently, in my class, a classmate started saying that another classmate, Zhan Rong, a prosperous-looking guy has swine-flu! Suddenly, everyone started seeing him in a different light. Everyone started looking out for his mistakes, like sneezing in class and day by day, they grow more and more afraid of him.
This shows human tendency to believe in rumours instead of using logical thinking to analyse matters, or even a person.
When they hear rumours and gossips about a person, we tend to change original views. For example, we used to see this person as a kind and jovial person but after someone said that he is a sly person, we will think, "Is he kind to me to gain some personal benefits?"
Actually, every problem has a solution. It is self-judgement. We can decide for ourselves the type of person someone is. We also have to think, "Is he spreading rumours about that guy because of some past grudges or misunderstanding?"
Rumours, self-judgement.
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